Does it seem like some people have all the luck? Everything they do turns to gold and when you try to do something it ends up in disaster.
It Seems So Unfair!
Life’s throwing you curveballs and you just can’t catch a break! I read this quote a few months ago and jotted it on a index card and stuck it on my dream board at my desk so I could get the right mindset for success.
“The Harder You Work The Luckier You Get!” Stephen Kaufer of Tripadvisor
Pretty powerful! That’s why it’s on my dream board to remind me that I need to just keep working and luck will find me. So it’s not really that other people are luckier than you, it’s just that they have their mindset for success. So Michelle, “How can I get the right mindset for success like that Tripadvisor dude?”
I’ll tell you from the success I had in the cricket business. You see this was back in 1989-1990. We went bankrupt. Yep, you heard me. We had built up so much debt (from a failed stained glass business) that we couldn’t handle it anymore. I was making around $4 an hour and hubs was a locksmith for a big bank but the pay sucked. We could have gotten on food stamps, but we were too proud to do that, so we filed for bankruptcy.
We packed up some of our stuff out of our home we bought, left the cars in the driveway and lucky for us hubs bank let him use the company truck to take us to our rental house in the city. OH Man, I’m a country girl and bringing my babies to the city was really scary for me. Hubs rode a bike to work each day. I stayed home with the two boys. I couldn’t afford to pay for a sitter in the city and work so I did nothing mostly.
Get The Right Mindset For Success
We lived there for a year, but while we were there. Hubs started messing around out in the garage with crickets. His dad wanted to grow them because when he went fishing, the bait house was always out of them. He started in his house, which was a bad idea as they got out all over the place. But that’s another story.
Turns out that I also used to work at a petshop for a while right after my youngest was born and the they never had crickets in the winter time and all our bug eating critters would go hungry, until another shipment came in and then most of them were dead. I had the great idea to sell them to pet shops instead of for bait. It was a more steady income than the bait market. That started the wheels working in hubs brain. He’s a pretty smart dude.
Broke But Not Broken (maybe a little bit)
We were broke, I mean really broke. But we set our minds to building a business out of nothing. We wanted more for our boys and ourselves. Plus I REALLY hated living in the city. We even impressed the guy that rented the house from so much as he watched us go from bankrupt to owning a 100 acre farm. That he eventually followed us to our home town and built himself a very successful business and is still there today.
So you see, we didn’t go to college, or have Many skills. We just knew we wanted to have our own business and we saw a business opportunity that was needed. We started very small, like one car (hubs still worked in the city), I would drive him to work, drop the oldest off at school, then deliver the crickets, go back and pick him up which was an hour drive each way, take care of the bugs and raise two boys.
I Was A Super MOM!
Our car was crap! I had to fill it up with oil every 200 miles, plus it was a stick shift blue wagon that smoked and backfired. So embarrassing to drop of your child at school in a smoking car. Our house we bought out in the country was an old meth house, that was really a garage with three sliding glass doors on the front. I have a picture of me crying when we moved in, there wasn’t a kitchen, there was mold on the walls and wet clothes all over the house.
I was sitting in a chair in the middle of my non kitchen, priceless! But I was out of the city!
The renters blew up the shed in the backyard and the sewer was messed up so the toilet never flushed right. I had to hang out my clothes to dry outside, in the winter in the tiny house and our refrigerator was from the 20’s and we flushed the toilet with a water bucket.
You Have To Start Someplace
You’ve got to start someplace, everybody does. We then grew that Bug business into something AWESOME! Traveling, buying two homes and 100 acre farm, motorhomes, trips to Alaska and Australia. We kept that going for over 25 years, when we needed more money we brainstormed how to grow bigger and bigger. With no help from anyone. We even bought our house on a contract. We paid cash for everything, until I started getting credit cards in the mail. That’s another story too.
The thing is no one remembers the way we started, the sacrifices we made to make it work. You have to tell yourself over and over that it will work, you WILL make 6 figures this year or next. I did that! Our family would always ask us when we were going to get a REAL job. Even when we were making so much money.
And I raised our income every year and would say to myself over and over, what I was going to make that year and the next. It really is in the mindset and how you think about things. If I had just stayed in that rental house in the city and told myself I would never be anyone or make any money. Then I might still be there.
Another thing I remember was that no one would help us to learn how to raise crickets. It was a big secret back in the 90’s before the internet. There wasn’t even any books at the library about it. So we did what we had to do and learned everything there was about bugs and how they act. One cricket farmer had to buy his farm and pay a down payment before he could even go on the farm to see how to raise them for himself. We didn’t have that luxury.
We built ours from scratch with the cash we had on hand. Because we went bankrupt. We had no credit for about 10 years. Everything was cash. No debit cards back then either.
We had no choice but to succeed! And when things go to heck, then you just have to deal with it and go on.
Here’s a quote from Me!
“To Be Successful, You Have No Choice But To Make It Work” by Michelle Farmer, Commercial Cricket Farmer
So Mindset is what makes the difference. Just do it! Get Your Mindset For Success as it sets those who are successful apart from those who are not. Just saying!
But I was thrown One more curveball.
Our crickets got a virus, actually everyone in the United States who had cricket farms got the virus. It was in the air and there was nothing anyone could do about it. The big cricket farms stuck together and helped each other get through it, but there was a couple years when you could only get live crickets from a couple places in the United States.
Our friends farm got it, we got it. There was nothing we could do, the bugs just died. So we sold the farm and move all our stuff into a small home close to the farm. Sold off all the old cricket stuff and traveled for a couple months. We went from making over $20,000 a month to nothing overnight.
Is Your Mindset Defeating You?
Here’s my Internet story.
Michelle wanted to be an online entrepreneur. She started selling on eBay and she did really well at it, growing each month in sales. One year she even paid all over $45,000 worth of credit card debt, but she wanted more. She wanted to be like all her new friends she made online.
They always said they were making really good money, even some of them said 6 figures. She was tired of the whole eBay biz, but didn’t want to sell crickets again and wasn’t sure if she even could. She really missed all the money she used to make raising bugs.
Sales were slowing down on eBay, so she knew she had to do something else to make extra money.
Getting a job was out of the question, she didn’t have any skills (so she thought) and she knew she would make more at home than in some 9 to 5 job.
She secretly (hubs didn’t approve of her online quest) spent years bouncing from one business idea to the next. Each started the same way: she’d feel excited about pursuing the new business. She’d get the supplies or tools needed. Then she’d begin a marketing campaign.
By the six-month mark, Michelle would shut it down. She would say the market wasn’t ready for her idea or that her ideal customers weren’t willing to pay enough to make a profit.
She spent so much money on these big ideas! But nothing seemed to be working. So, she’d get really busy with eBay again for a few months until she found her next big idea.
Michelle didn’t realize her problem was her mindset. She had no one to point that fact out to her. Even though Michelle craved success online, she feared it, she thought she was too stupid to do it or didn’t have enough skills. So, every time she got close to a breakthrough in a new business, she would sabotage herself.
You may relate to these struggles. Perhaps your dream is slightly different—maybe you want to be a six-figure blogger or start your own tech company.
The good news is that you can achieve these dreams and so much more, but only if you’re willing change and Get Your Mindset For Success. I’ve changed mine and have no more fear of failure now.
“I want to be successful so I have no choice to make it work!” I think someone famous said that. Ha, no it was me!
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